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Once upon a time, the only backup plan you needed for your wedding was for wet weather. Now, thanks to the virus that gatecrashed 2020 and continues to rain on all our parades, couples are having to make more contingency plans<\/em> than actual wedding plans<\/em>. The result? Postponement fatigue.<\/h3>\n
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Natalie and Jesse<\/a> went from a 250+ guest list down to just two. “The day was just magical.” Photo: Marcus Rusbourne.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

If you’ve shifted your wedding date more times than you’ve moved house, chances are you’re suffering wedding postponement fatigue.<\/p>\n

Postponement fatigue is real. It sucks. And depending on the number of save-the-dates you’ve had to send, intensities vary from mildly frustrating to raise-the-white-flag heartbreaking.<\/p>\n

But unlike 2020 where our collective war was on taming a virus we knew nothing about, emerging from winter 2021, Australia has an actual plan to be hopeful about: vaccination.<\/p>\n

And regardless of where you’re at with this hotly debated topic, the global vaccine rollout – that’s about opening up rather than locking down –<\/em> has already<\/em> started to kill the other<\/em> virus that’s been infecting wedding planning joy: uncertainty.<\/p>\n

That’s something to be uplifted about.<\/p>\n

What is postponement fatigue?<\/h3>\n

We’ve heard of COVID fatigue, lockdown fatigue, and from the healthcare frontlines, compassion fatigue. For couples planning a wedding in 2021, there’s been an added kind of burnout at play: postponement fatigue<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

While fatigue, as explained in this fact sheet from Psychology.org.au<\/a><\/strong>, comes with the telltale signs of lethargy, irritability, sadness, zero motivation and scatteredness; postponement fatigue is all of these things concentrated around the most basic fear:<\/p>\n

Will we ever get to have our wedding?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

We’ve seen couples postpone their wedding two, three, and four times, draining what excitement they had and injecting it with dread.<\/p>\n

On the flip side are the wedding businesses scrambling to service their clients – and save their livelihoods.<\/p>\n

Couples – and suppliers – are all but done with ’21.<\/p>\n

BUT.<\/p>\n

It’s not all bad news. From the stories of couples who made it through ‘Will we or won’t we?’ to ‘WE DID!’ – there’s actually a real and warm glow at the end of this maddening tunnel.<\/p>\n

As we inch towards that light, here’s how you can support yourselves through postponement fatigue and get your wedding mojo back.<\/p>\n

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Krystal and Glen<\/a>‘s wedding was cancelled 6 weeks from the day. “We truly believe that our experience throughout COVID contributed to the most amazing day of our lives together.” Photo by Rick Liston.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

What you CAN do about postponement fatigue<\/h3>\n

1. Bring it Back to What You Can Control \u2911<\/h4>\n

During times of incredible uncertainty, the consensus among mental health, performance, and dare we go there, ‘mindset’ professionals, is to focus your thinking on what you can<\/em> control.<\/p>\n

It’s easier said than done. Especially when you’re grieving what was; and what could have been.<\/p>\n

When the time is right; when you’re done cursing and crying and throwing vases at your mood board<\/strong><\/a>, see how it feels to turn towards the remaining decisions you can control about your wedding – that 100 postponements could never touch.<\/p>\n

10 Postponement-Proof Wedding Decisions<\/strong><\/p>\n