{"id":61521,"date":"2021-05-28T02:19:26","date_gmt":"2021-05-27T16:19:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/au\/articles\/dealing-with-wedding-anxiety\/"},"modified":"2021-11-10T15:28:56","modified_gmt":"2021-11-10T04:28:56","slug":"dealing-with-wedding-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"au-article","link":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/articles\/dealing-with-wedding-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Tips For Dealing With Wedding Planning Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s no secret that planning your wedding can be a stressful experience, from discussing the budget to finalising the guest list and dealing with difficult family members. Here are some tips on how to ease your wedding anxiety, so you can enjoy this exciting time without sweating the small stuff.<\/h3>\n\n

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1. Wedding anxiety is more manageable when you set realistic expectations<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re a bit of a perfectionist, wedding planning can be a testing time. Perhaps your wedding vision doesn\u2019t fit your budget<\/a> or your partner\u2019s expectations. Whatever it might be, it\u2019s important to remind yourself that your wedding day is about celebrating your love for one another. Let go of any unrealistic expectations and aim for wonderful, not perfect.<\/p>\n

\u201cPutting unrealistic, demanding expectations upon yourself, your friends, and your family creates a dynamic of stress, anxiety, and emotional tension that is very likely to make the day far from enjoyably perfect,\u201d says Tess Reilly-Browne<\/a>, a Melbourne-based psychologist who specialises in family and relationship therapy.<\/p>\n

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2. Know that you can’t please everyone<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s okay not to invite a toxic family member to your wedding.<\/p>\n

Is the thought of inviting a problematic family member to your wedding causing you additional stress? If you\u2019re feeling pressured to invite someone to smooth out existing family drama, remember that it\u2019s your<\/em> day. It\u2019s absolutely okay to leave a family member off the guest list if you feel they will bring unwanted tension on the day.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt would be great if those challenging, jealous, hurtful, controlling, and stubborn members of your family could seek some therapy to change their harmful ways,\u201d says Tess. \u201cIf that\u2019s unlikely, stop focusing on them, and start focusing on you by learning ways to reduce the hurt and harm their behaviours create within you.\u201d<\/p>\n

3. Make plans that minimise risk<\/h2>\n

For example, if you do invite the difficult person mentioned above, have a plan of attack to ease your wedding anxiety on the day.<\/p>\n

If you choose to be the bigger person and invite a family member despite their unpredictable behaviour, have a plan in place to make sure things don\u2019t go pear-shaped on your wedding day. Are your parents divorced and don\u2019t get along? Consider this when planning your seating chart. Do you have an estranged family member that you haven\u2019t spoken to in years? Meet with them for a coffee in person before the wedding to gauge how they will act in a social setting.<\/p>\n

Remember to communicate openly with your partner about any problematic family situations before the wedding day. That way, you can support each other and avoid causing any wedding anxiety if a plan of attack needs to be executed. \u201cKnowing what you will do and how you will support each other if a calamity does occur can be calmly reassuring and help you weather any storm,\u201d says Tess.<\/p>\n

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4. Don\u2019t be afraid to lean on others if you\u2019re feeling anxious<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s important to surround yourself with loving and supportive people who listen and help with any wedding planning tasks<\/a> that you don\u2019t have time for. Whether it be a close friend or relative, make sure you have someone you can lean on when the wedding anxiety is getting too much. And if other issues are building up that are weighing on your mind, consider speaking to a qualified therapist in order to calm your nerves before the wedding day.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe best way you can prepare for your wedding day, long before diets, choosing wedding dresses and suits, hairstyles and makeup artists, is focusing on how to calm your nerves. This can be achieved in a few sessions with a really good therapist,\u201d says Tess. You\u2019ll be glowing with calm confidence on your wedding day after a few pre-wedding therapy sessions<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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5. Remember to take care of yourself first to minimise your wedding anxiety<\/h2>\n

If you find yourself feeling anxious in the lead up to your wedding, take a step back and remember that it\u2019s meant to be an enjoyable experience. It\u2019s super important to take some time out from the wedding planning to focus on yourself and your mental wellbeing. Maybe that means going for a long walk, taking a yoga class, practising meditation, or spending some quality time with your partner.<\/p>\n

For more helpful tips, check out Tess Reilly-Browne\u2019s blog<\/a>. She covers a range of topics, from wedding anxiety to maintaining a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

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