Kat John<\/a> is known for her real, raw, relatable approach to self-responsibility. She\u2019s a meditation expert, coach, speaker, and founder of what she calls the ZEROFKS movement<\/a>, where she gathers people around the world for a virtual dance party every Tuesday. A few highlights from her tips below include how to sort through what fks to give right now and how to dive into meditation by asking yourself one critical question.<\/p>\n Fitness guru (and recent winner of My Kitchen Rules), Jake Harrison, runs the FIT Program at W Brisbane<\/a> and suggests finding exercise and meditation practices that you genuinely enjoy. His tips are particularly geared toward couples, as many are looking for ways to connect through new activities during this period of social distancing. He says instead of just thinking about meditation as a literal crossed-leg moment with candles and incense burning, instead think of the little things you can do to enjoy taking time to clear your mind and enjoy each other\u2019s company.<\/p>\n\n Here are Chelsea\u2019s tools to help manage stressful situations that we can\u2019t control:<\/p>\n When dealing with stress and building resilience, we really need to take a holistic approach so ensuring our bodies and mind are in peak condition will help manage this difficult time.<\/p>\n Deep breathing is one of the best exercises you can do to help with stress. The benefits are numerous and include activating the parasympathetic system, improving gamma brain waves, increasing vagal tone, improving clarity and strategic thinking, and improving oxygen to the brain that helps with good decision making skills.<\/p>\n Three great techniques are:<\/p>\n 1. Box breathing The best way to learn these techniques is to jump into YouTube. These breathing exercises are great as stress breakers. We have a YouTube channel, EQ Minds: Chelsea Pottenger<\/a>, where we teach a lot of this stuff.<\/p>\n The first thing to know about meditation is that nobody does it perfectly. There is no perfect place to do it, and you don’t need to sit and do it for a set amount of time. Obviously, a quiet location will help, and twenty minutes would be great. But if you only have one minute in the shower to do it, well then, that\u2019s your place and it\u2019ll be great. There are so many great apps to help you learn to meditate; I like Headspace and Calm. I also have free meditations on my YouTube channel @EQMinds.<\/p>\n Find the positive in every situation. Journal down all the things you can be grateful for during this time. Examples: I no longer have to commute and get to spend time with my partner, my family; I can work from home and spend time working on or learning meditation, or exercising more.<\/p>\n Ask yourself this question: “Is this behaviour helping or harming me?\u201d Every 90 seconds we can either decide to revisit the same emotion, or hit the reset and start on something fresh. Think of something positive, and get our day back on track.<\/p>\n Most of the news is putting us in a state of stress and laying down negative emotion on negative emotion. Be informed, but be informed from the right places. Not from places that fuel negative emotions. Turn off the screens and stop panic scrolling.<\/p>\n One of the best ways to change your mindset is to help others. Helping others is clinically proven to help you. There are so many people in a worse situation than you. How can you help someone? It doesn\u2019t have to be anything major. Maybe it’s just picking up the phone and asking someone R U OK?<\/p>\n Journalling is such a great way to clear the mind. Don\u2019t be afraid to use prompts to get your journal juices flowing, like I am grateful for; what will I let go of today?; I will focus on (something positive).<\/p>\n Insight Timer has tons of great resources, including meditations and courses. My website EQ Minds<\/a> has a series of online courses to help with stress, sleep, and productivity. I’m still in awe of the great content that YouTube has available for free \u2014 just make sure you\u2019re looking at the positive and not the negative.<\/p>\n We need to be very mindful of the impact we are having on those around us. Social contagion is a very real thing. Nicholas Christakis has a great ted talk on this topic<\/a>. How are we projecting our emotions on those around us and what effect is it having on them? Everybody needs to be in this together. That includes staying positive and uplifting those around us, who need our support as much as we need theirs.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s what Kat has to say on the topic of stress during self-isolation:<\/p>\n During these times, I\u2019ve been coaching my own mind and others\u2019 to save their fks for the things that matter. What I mean by that is possibly, a decent portion of your energy, focus, and attention (aka fks) are being spent whinging, complaining, blaming, or sitting in stress. You can feel victimised by the current circumstances, frustrated about homeschooling, sad about losing work or business, etc. And you know what, fair enough. Take a minute to let yourself feel all of that. Write it out, get it out and consciously express what’s going on inside of you rather than drowning in it, or running away from it. Doing so allows you to take control of how you are feeling even though you may not be able to control the external conditions of life.<\/p>\n Once you have had your moment, ask yourself, “Where do I really want to put my energy, focus and attention (aka fks)?” Take a moment, let the answers come and write out what feels true for you. Answers like meditating, dancing, eating well, cooking delicious meals, serving your tribe, etc. may come up. These are your gold nugget answers to invest in, and I encourage you to do this anytime you notice yourself acting up or becoming anxious.<\/p>\n Being present helps me tap out of the drama I’m either creating or getting sucked into, which although can be very easy and addictive to stay in, I don’t like suffering. I do this practice of tuning into my senses for 5 minutes because this process trains you to be in the present moment. There’s nothing but what’s happening right then and there and this settles me into a place of peace.<\/p>\n When my head is foggy and I try to make it clear right away, often it doesn’t work so well. So I give myself a minute to chuck a wobbly. It’s normal to become overwhelmed, or stressed, or anxious when life isn’t going your way. However, when you stay in that state for too long you’re essentially choosing to stay there, which can lead you to feeling victimised or helpless. This doesn’t serve you or anyone around you I encourage my coaching clients to create a simple structure and build on it as their commitment to the simple structure begins to stick. I recommend a structure that serves them mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Without structure, the primal part of our brain is left to decide in the moment what it *feels* like doing \u2014 and that’s a recipe for doing sweet FA! Here\u2019s an example:<\/p>\n Morning Goals: Afternoon Goals: Evening Goals: Here are Jake\u2019s top tips for a not-so-normal meditation with your partner:<\/p>\n In these stressful times, it\u2019s very important to maintain a healthy routine. When it comes to meditation and exercise, it is crucial to do something you like doing. Forcing yourself to meditate, or do an exercise you don\u2019t really enjoy, can result in a not-so-pleasant experience.<\/p>\n When it comes to meditation, you don\u2019t have to always think so literal, you don\u2019t have to sit crossed legged with a Namaste vibe going on! Though if that\u2019s for you, go for it! Here are my go-to alternatives to get you started.<\/p>\n Music plays a huge role in affecting our emotions. Make a playlist of songs that you both LOVE. Sing out loud and just give into that moment. It\u2019s even better if you have your bestie or partner to sing along and dance around your space.<\/p>\n If breathing is more your vibe, start by sitting or even lying down. Close your eyes and just count to five as you breathe in followed by a count of five as you exhale. Focusing on the counts will allow your mind to switch off. If you\u2019re anything like me, as soon as I close my eyes, my mind wanders and I think of everything. Focusing on the counts can trick your brain into calming down and blocking out your wandering mind. If you\u2019re doing this with your partner, try holding hands while lying down, and you\u2019ll feel a strong connection with one another.<\/p>\n A really good exercise for reducing anxiety is to write down what you are grateful for. Do this with your partner. Write down three things you are grateful for about each other, this creates and builds a strong bond with one another.<\/p>\n When it comes to exercise, find something that you both *love* doing. It might be a yoga class on YouTube or an app. I use Oyana \u2014 it has everything from Yoga to HIIT classes that you can purchase on demand and take anywhere. Don\u2019t forget to cheer and encourage each other on.<\/p>\n With wellness centres closed, it\u2019s the perfect time to reflect on what you have and what you\u2019ve experienced together. A great way of doing this \u2014 and something fun to do with your bridal party \u2014 is to create a slideshow of your amazing times together. Create a slideshow album and save it to a USB so you can take it anywhere. You can all laugh and share the stories behind each photo and really build an appreciation for each other.<\/p>\n\n![\"Mindfulness](\"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/Mindfulness-hacks-for-couples-Chelsea-Pottenger.png\" "\\"\\"")
<\/h3>\n\nDeep Breathing Techniques<\/h3>\n
\n2. 4-2-6 technique
\n3. Pranayama breathing<\/p>\nMeditation<\/h3>\n
Gratitude<\/h3>\n
Reset to The Positive<\/h3>\n
Stop Panic Scrolling<\/h3>\n
Focus on Generosity<\/h3>\n
Keep a Journal<\/h3>\n
Use The Right Online Resources<\/h3>\n
Practice Mindfulness<\/h3>\n
Interested in more valuable tools and tips from Chelsea? Head to her site for e-courses on mindfulness, productivity, and sleep<\/a> or visit her EQMinds\u00a0YouTube channel<\/a>.<\/h3>\n\n\n
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<\/p>\n\nBe Present<\/h3>\n
\nSo when I notice my behaviour and that it’s not serving me, this is what I do in some of my meditations to refocus and come back to myself:<\/p>\n\n
Clear Your Mind<\/h3>\n
\nHere’s what I do to clear my mind:
\n1. Acknowledge what is going on in your mind that is causing you to feel powerless, anxious, not good enough, etc. Let yourself really see and notice what it is.
\n2. Ask yourself: “If I was a powerful person, what would I do?” Allow time for an answer to come through.
\n3. The answer you receive is your next best step to shift your focus, mindset, and reality by taking action. As a result, this helps clear the mind.<\/p>\n\nCreate Structure<\/h3>\n
\nI suggest breaking the day into three parts \u2014 morning, afternoon and evening \u2014 and to commit to one, or at the most two (in the beginning), rituals that are going to serve you.
\nAs simple and basic as it may seem, committing to self-serving practices leads to retraining your subconscious mind to behave in new ways. It takes 21 days to create a new habit, 3 days to undo the new habit if you stop, and 63 days to lock in the habit and create new pathways in your brain, which lead to longer term success.
\nI see this time as an opportunity for you to reassess your current structure and whether it is or isn’t serving you. If it’s not, there are endless tools available (many for free) to get you going. There are no excuses to sit in stress. Stress halves your ability to respond intelligently, so get cracking!<\/p>\n
\nMove body
\nMeditate<\/p>\n
\nLearn something new: podcast, online training, YouTube videos
\nTurn the music up and dance to blow off steam and cabin fever<\/p>\n
\nPhones off by 9\/9:30pm
\nMeditate and\/or journal<\/p>\nLooking for more golden nuggets of inspiration from Kat? Head to her podcast<\/a>, website<\/a>, Instagram<\/a>, or YouTube channel<\/a>.<\/h3>\n\n
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<\/p>\n\nUse Music Therapy<\/h3>\n
Focus on Your Breath<\/h3>\n
Build Gratitude Together<\/h3>\n
Exercise<\/h3>\n
Reach Out to Your Community<\/h3>\n
If you\u2019d like to see Jake in action, his weekly Wednesday morning HIIT class at W Brisbane<\/a> will resume when social distancing restrictions are lifted. His classes are complimentary for in-house guests and $20 for locals, including post-workout treats and access to spa facilities.<\/h3>\n
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