{"id":43124,"date":"2017-05-30T01:55:31","date_gmt":"2017-05-29T15:55:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/au\/articles\/choreograph-first-dance\/"},"modified":"2021-11-10T06:05:47","modified_gmt":"2021-11-09T19:05:47","slug":"choreograph-first-dance","status":"publish","type":"au-article","link":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/articles\/choreograph-first-dance\/","title":{"rendered":"Should you choreograph your first dance?"},"content":{"rendered":"

The question of whether or not to choreograph your first dance is actually quite complex and involves lots of different perspectives and considerations. Would you, or should you choreograph your first dance?<\/p>\n

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Caitlin and Adrian did a Dirty Dancing number! See this #RealWedding<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Can you actually dance?<\/h2>\n

The first question to ask yourself is whether or not you both can actually dance? And not just bump and grind or rave like no ones watching… But you know, with each other<\/em>, looking \u2018normal\u2019 and romantic, and at least somewhat natural.<\/p>\n

If the answers is no, and you want to have a first dance that\u2019s more than shuffling around in an awkward approximation of every teen prom movie you\u2019ve ever seen- well, in one way or another your dance might need to be choreographed. Once upon a time most people picked these up somewhere along the way to becoming an adult, but those days are pretty much over. Foxtrot anyone? Didn\u2019t think so.<\/p>\n

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Patricia and Alex danced to Natalie Cole – see this #RealWedding<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

How far do you want to go?<\/h2>\n

There\u2019s choreographed in the way that \u2018we took a few lessons so Mr Two-left-feet would stop crushing my Manolos\u2019, and there\u2019s choreographed<\/em>; you know\u2026 like an audition for the Beyonce tour. In the end, the only thing that really matters is what YOU – the couple, together – want to do. After all, it\u2019s your party and you\u2019ll dance if you want to. But ultimately, what you want to do might depend on a few of these things:<\/p>\n

Bills, Bills, Bills<\/h2>\n

So, can you afford it<\/a>? Or rather, do you want to spend money on dance lessons? One on one lessons from professionals are not cheap (nor should they be, it\u2019s hard work). If you are looking to keep costs down it certainly isn\u2019t a \u2018must\u2019- like the food<\/a> or dress<\/a> for example.<\/p>\n

It is however probably one of the more fun pre-wedding activities to do, (beats seating charts and excel spreadsheets anyway). It\u2019s a bonding activity with your partner amidst the stress of parents-in-law and bills, and can double up as extra exercise depending how seriously you take it and how regularly you go.<\/p>\n

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Jessica and Stefan’s first dance – see this #RealWedding<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n

The likely reception at your reception<\/h2>\n

Another thing to think about is \u2013 frankly, how do you think your crowd of friends and family will receive it? And do you care what they think? The thing is \u2013 you\u2019re never going to please everyone. One person\u2019s thrilling \u2018that was awesome, didn\u2019t know you had it in you\u2019 is another\u2019s \u2018oh dear, I didn\u2019t know this was a wedding come dance recital\u2019.<\/p>\n

Even if they\u2019re secretly critical of your cheesy showboating ways, they are attending your wedding because they love you, and in the end even if it isn\u2019t their cup of tea, they\u2019re getting unlimited drinks so\u2026 They can clap like the good captive audience they are.<\/p>\n

It’s close to midnight…<\/h2>\n

Another consideration is if you\u2019ve got something specific in mind. You know, like perfectly recreating MJ\u2019s Thriller or that<\/em> scene from Dirty Dancing? If so \u2013 get some help because that stuff is tricky to do well. And safely \u2013 most people are not as strong or coordinated as professional dancers and it is highly<\/em> undesirable to throw the bride across the room, collapse under her weight, or a myriad of other disastrous things that are making me nervous thinking about.<\/p>\n

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Rachael and Alex danced on waterfront – see this #RealWedding<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Compromise and get in touch with your roots<\/h2>\n

After thinking it through, if you just can\u2019t decide and want to please everyone, think of some compromises. Is either of you from a culture that does specific dances? Incorporating these is very fun, meaningful, and often will get even the oldies up and participating with you after the allotted spotlight time is over.<\/p>\n

Another thing is \u2013 keep it short. People have limited attention spans and often want another drink, to sit back down, or to join in depending on what stage the event is at. Most people will happily watch either a full on choreographed routine or a cute natural sway around for up to a few minutes, but after that it can be boring or awkward. So if your intended song is really long, cut it down.<\/p>\n

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Cristina and Mitchel met on the dancefloor, can you tell? <\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Do what you want<\/h2>\n

One last thing \u2013 if you one or both of you are allergic to the spotlight, physically unable, or simply don\u2019t want to \u2013 there isn\u2019t a law that says you have to dance. The point of the dance is to take a moment to connect and enjoy touching your new wife or husband.\u00a0If either of you are not going to enjoy it because of stress or nerves or otherwise; do it your way and just sneak a moment where no one is watching.<\/p>\n

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See more of this romantic #RealWedding<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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