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Congratulations on your engagement! A party can be the ideal time to announce the news to your nearest and dearest. We have the answers to all of your questions about engagement party etiquette.<\/p>\n
Everyone is aware of the hens and bucks<\/a> and all of the fun and frivolity that can go on there, but who do you invite<\/a> to an engagement party? Do you receive gifts? Who should throw the party? These are all common questions, so we have brought the answers to you so you can brush up on engagement party etiquette before the event.<\/p>\n
Traditionally the parents of the engaged couple will host the party. But a number of factors could impact on this, such your partners family living in another state or even country. In this case, you might opt to have one engagement party hosted by willing parents, or even have one with each family so that no one misses out.<\/p>\n
If you are having multiple parties, you should invite guests to only one party, not both.<\/p>\n
If neither of your families are close by, you can opt to hire a venue.<\/p>\n
That said, this is the 21st century and if you are having a destination wedding or elopement and would like a big celebration for your engagement instead, you can take on the responsibility yourselves so you can celebrate with everyone.<\/p>\n
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If someone is hosting the party for you, it is generally them who covers the costs.<\/p>\n
If you are hosting your own formal party at a venue, traditionally\u00a0it\u2019s your responsibility to cover\u00a0the bill and if a dinner is too expensive, you can consider a cocktail party or even a pot luck in your own back yard if that is more your style. You can tailor the event to suit any budget<\/a>.<\/p>\n
It is becoming more common to hold informal drinks at a venue<\/a> and in this case, it’s okay for guests to purchase their own drinks and you can consider putting up an initial bar tab or providing some nibbles<\/a>.<\/p>\n
It is tradition that everyone who is invited to your engagement party<\/a> should also be invited to your wedding.<\/p>\n
Try to make the guest list<\/a> a balance between you and your partner’s friends and family, so that one side isn’t dominant. Often, this is the first time before your wedding that all of these people will mix together, and ideally, you want them to mingle and get along!<\/p>\n
Since the engagement party custom was designed to help you start building bridges between your families, if you have input into the location and style of the engagement party, it is best to consider what will make not only yourselves, but your parents and partner’s parents comfortable.<\/p>\n
If one of you has a very formal family, an impromptu picnic in the park might not be the most appropriate setting for getting to know one another and a five-course sit-down dinner might be intimidating for some who prefer the more casual setting. Finding a medium is key. Maybe a stand up cocktail party with a live band would be the ideal way to keep all parties happy.<\/p>\n
You might like to take some time to revel in your new engagement and start some initial discussions with your partner about how long you would like to enjoy this status before walking down the aisle.<\/p>\n
A smaller impromptu family gathering could be nice shortly after becoming engaged, but many wedding experts recommend you do not have an all-out engagement party within the first month of accepting a proposal.<\/p>\n
You both need some time to adjust and usually between two to four months after the question was popped is a good guideline. Plus, planning an engagement party takes time!<\/p>\n
If you have limited control over the guest list, which may be the case if someone else is hosting the party for you, there will be people that you might not be crazy about interacting with.<\/p>\n
But in the end, all of your guests have made an effort to be there, so be sure to acknowledge everyone (yes, everyone) even if it is with a smile, a hand shake or hug and a simple “Thank you for coming”. It’s a busy event for you so be sure to excuse yourself if you need to move on and acknowledge other people.<\/p>\n
While guests have not traditionally brought presents to engagement parties, this is changing.<\/p>\n
The key is to decide what you are comfortable with. If you prefer not to receive gifts from guests, make a point of saying so on the invitations. It could be something simple like, “Your presence is our present”, or “The gift of your attendance is all we wish for”.<\/p>\n
This will let people off the hook and if there are some people who would like to buy you a gift, thank them privately and place it out of sight of other guests to avoid making those who followed your request feel uncomfortable.<\/p>\n
If you would like to avoid any questions about what you would like people to buy you, you can set up a gift registry<\/a>. Place items on your registry with the idea in mind that the guests may also buy you a wedding gift or contribute to a wishing well<\/a> down the track.<\/p>\n
When\u00a0you do put together a registry, you can add a small note on your invitation<\/a> or add a link to a Facebook event. If people approach you to ask what you would like, you can give them the direct link to your\u00a0registry and wedding website.<\/a><\/p>\n
Generally, the father of the bride leads a toast to the couple and the couple will respond<\/a> with a toast to their families.<\/p>\n
Unless you are intentionally hosting a larger engagement party<\/a> due to planning a smaller, intimate wedding, you really don’t want to upstage the main event. But if you are planning on having a long engagement or love event planning, then create an impact with your engagement party and excite your guests<\/a> for the wedding that is to come!<\/p>\n