{"id":283963,"date":"2022-12-20T16:10:51","date_gmt":"2022-12-20T05:10:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/?post_type=au-article&#038;p=283963"},"modified":"2023-12-19T10:30:03","modified_gmt":"2023-12-18T23:30:03","slug":"comebacks-for-unsolicited-wedding-advice","status":"publish","type":"au-article","link":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/articles\/comebacks-for-unsolicited-wedding-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"Cheeky comebacks for unsolicited wedding advice"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>As soon as you get engaged, you&#8217;re bombarded with unsolicited wedding advice from friends, in-laws, rogue relatives, and even strangers. Here are some cheeky replies you can lean into, and a few chill responses too. All are guaranteed to be conversation enders.<\/h3>\n<div class=\"tenor-gif-embed\" data-postid=\"14169675\" data-share-method=\"host\" data-aspect-ratio=\"1.50943\" data-width=\"100%\"><a href=\"https:\/\/tenor.com\/view\/regina-george-mean-girls-obsessed-gif-14169675\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Regina George Mean Girls GIF<\/a>from <a href=\"https:\/\/tenor.com\/search\/regina+george-gifs\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Regina George GIFs<\/a><\/div>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\" async src=\"https:\/\/tenor.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Whether you&#8217;re at the very beginning of your wedding planning journey or the wedding date is fast approaching, there&#8217;s one tricky aspect of nearly every engagement: unsolicited wedding advice. And while some recommendations, opinions or pieces of wisdom may be genuinely helpful, others are unrealistic or just straight-up rude.<\/p>\n<p>The way we see it, you have two options for how you&#8217;ll reply to any of these scenarios: Take the high road and channel your inner chill or go full Regina George on them. Okay, maybe it&#8217;s not necessary to be an actual Mean Girl about it, but we can all fantasise about the perfect cheeky reply.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<h3>Here are some common examples of unsolicited wedding advice and ways to respond to them:<\/h3>\n<h4><\/h4>\n<h4>Advice:\u00a0You should just elope!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> Omg Danny Devito, I love your work! Ever the optimist, aren\u2019t ya?<br \/>\n<strong>Channeling your inner chill:<\/strong> We\u2019ve definitely considered it, but haven\u2019t you ever been to a wedding that just made you feel like you wanted in on that experience too?<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: I would never spend that much on a wedding!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Don\u2019t worry, I\u2019m sure you\u2019ll never have to.<br \/>\n<strong>Think chill:<\/strong> It\u2019s so crazy how much inflation has changed the cost of a wedding.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: You should get married at ::insert random place here::<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Okay, J Lo, didn\u2019t realize you were back to planning weddings these days!<br \/>\n<strong>Chill reply: <\/strong>That sounds nice, but I\u2019ve got a few places in mind and don\u2019t want to reveal them until we\u2019ve figured out the pricing.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Comment: Start saving now!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Oh, did you get your little credit card debacle cleared up?<br \/>\n<strong>So calm: <\/strong>I know right? It\u2019s so hard figure out what our budget will get us, but we\u2019re sorting out the finances with our families. Thankfully not every payment is due at the same time.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: You should talk to Jenny. She got married in a castle in Scotland like 15 years ago. I\u2019m sure she\u2019d be happy to give you advice.<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Yeah, totally. I\u2019m sure her father, the inventor of Toaster Strudel, would be happy to compare budget notes.<br \/>\n<strong>Chill Master Flex:\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019re sweet to suggest that, but I don\u2019t think our DIY budget quite stacks up to her castle wedding. We\u2019ve gotten some great local advice though, so all good.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: Remember that guy Sloppy John you made out with in high school? He has a wedding catering business now \u2014 you should hire him!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Actually, that was you, not me. And, NOPE.<br \/>\n<strong>Reality sound bites: <\/strong>That\u2019d be so awkward! I\u2019d probably run away from him if I saw him in person. No chance I want him at my wedding!<\/p>\n\n<h4>Insistence: You have to invite your Grandma\u2019s second husband, Hank, or I\u2019m not coming.<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Cool cool cool. Didn\u2019t he report himself missing after the last time the cops showed up at his house?<br \/>\n<strong>Chill, Winston:<\/strong> Great idea! Better yet, you should invite him out to dinner so you can catch up with him one-on-one.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: You should really try to include your mom\/sister\/mother-in-law more in the wedding planning<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> No, thank you. I\u2019m allergic.<br \/>\n<strong>Chill reply: <\/strong>Did she tell you she\u2019s feeling left out? Because it\u2019s hard to include someone with such strong opinions about what I should or shouldn\u2019t do.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Question: Shotgun wedding! You&#8217;re not pregnant, are you?<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>I was going to ask you the same! You&#8217;re glowing with confidence!<br \/>\n<strong>Bridechilla: <\/strong>Nah, just wanted to get married quickly so we didn&#8217;t have to think about it for the next 18 months.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: You should have a destination wedding!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:\u00a0<\/strong>Only if we can take your private jet there!<br \/>\n<strong>Zen credit:\u00a0<\/strong>Honestly, we&#8217;d love to, but if we do that, we&#8217;ll have like half the guest list and won&#8217;t be able to spend it with people like you.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: You have to come up with a great wedding hashtag! I&#8217;ll help.<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> #notinterested<br \/>\n<strong>Honestly chill:\u00a0<\/strong>I post on socials like once a year, and Aaron doesn&#8217;t even have an account anymore. I really don&#8217;t need a hashtag for my wedding.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: YOLO! Get the dress you really want; who cares about your budget!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> Imagine I walk into my reception in Vera Wang just to sit on the floor because we couldn&#8217;t also afford to rent chairs or hire a caterer bc of the price of the dress.<br \/>\n<strong>Inner peace talking: <\/strong>I mean, yeah, that&#8217;d be awesome, but we definitely can&#8217;t afford to go nuts. I think my bigger priority of feeding everyone so they don&#8217;t end up wasted at the wedding might have to win over my emotional side that really wants the more expensive dress.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Ideas man: You should DIY all the decorations \u2014 I&#8217;ll help!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> Yes, Martha Stewart! Can&#8217;t wait to see your paper flowers disintegrate into mush when I spray champagne all over the place in a moment of pure DIY bliss. Are you insane?<br \/>\n<strong>Chill response:<\/strong> You&#8217;re so sweet to offer and you know I love your creative input, but I can think of about 365 ways I&#8217;d rather spend the next year leading up to my wedding day.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: You have to give single people a plus one.<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> Perfect, so you agree? You think you&#8217;ll cover their cost?<br \/>\n<strong>Calm and cool:\u00a0<\/strong>I totally get where you&#8217;re coming from, but we haven&#8217;t figured out if that works with our budget yet. We have to make so many hard decisions to afford the guests we really want to attend, but that&#8217;s definitely in the consideration pile.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: That&#8217;s such a waste of money!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback:<\/strong> Do you think your parents sometimes think that about what they paid for your education?<br \/>\n<strong>Chill chilla: <\/strong>You&#8217;re funny! I think we just have different priorities.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Tip: You have to have a first look!<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Stop trying to make a first look happen \u2014 it&#8217;s not gonna happen!<br \/>\n<strong>Soooo chill: <\/strong>Yeah, our photographer talked us through the benefits, but I feel pretty strongly about not seeing each other that day until we&#8217;re walking down the aisle. It&#8217;s one of the most important things for me.<\/p>\n\n<h4>Advice: John has to shave his beard off for the wedding.<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Cheeky comeback: <\/strong>Well, you can go shave your back now.<br \/>\n<b>Buddha&#8217;s comeback: <\/b>Grooming is a practice of self-care, but remember, true radiance emerges from within, and I love John&#8217;s look just the way it is. Besides, I want to recognise him when I walk down the aisle!<\/p>\n\n<figure id=\"attachment_283967\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-283967\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-283967\" src=\"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/Cheeky-comebacks-for-unsolicited-wedding-advice.gif\" alt=\"Cheeky comebacks for unsolicited wedding advice\" width=\"498\" height=\"278\" title=\"\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-283967\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Source: Tenor<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<hr \/>\n<h3>What the pros say about unsolicited wedding advice<\/h3>\n<p>According to Melbourne celebrant<a href=\"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/MarriageCelebrant\/YarraValley\/MaureenMilesCelebrant\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong> Maureen Miles<\/strong><\/a>, it&#8217;s helpful to think of wedding advice as a Smorgasbord of tasty food. &#8220;You delight with the display but will only choose your very favourite things to eat,&#8221; Maureen explains. &#8220;The same goes with advice \u2014 appreciate the offering and then pick your favourites.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If they continue with the unwanted commentary, just tell them you love them to bits, but you really need their support on what you have chosen for your wedding day.&#8221;<\/p>\n<h4><\/h4>\n<h3>Advice from real couples regarding unsolicited wedding advice<\/h3>\n<p>We recently took to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/easyweddings\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\"><strong>Instagram<\/strong> <\/a>to ask our amazing followers how they dealt with unwanted advice and questionable comments when planning their weddings. As always, their insights didn&#8217;t disappoint! Here are some of our favourite tips from real couples to help you deal with unwanted wedding advice:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Remember that it&#8217;s your day in the end \u2014 let them speak so they feel heard and move on!<\/li>\n<li>Thank them for the advice and explain that your wedding vision is a little different (more easygoing, less formal, making your own new traditions etc.)<\/li>\n<li>Just don&#8217;t take it personally! Advice usually comes from a good place \u2014 they think they&#8217;re helping.<\/li>\n<li>Always remain respectful and polite. You can listen to what they have to say and say you&#8217;ll consider it, even if you don&#8217;t necessarily agree.<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t let others cloud your judgement \u2014 your wedding day should be a reflection of you and your partner.<\/li>\n<li>Take a big breath and respond with, &#8220;yes, I hear what you are saying. However, we don&#8217;t think this will be the right way for our wedding because&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr \/>\n<h4>Have you received some unwanted wedding advice and need to vent? We&#8217;re all ears! Head over to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/easyweddings\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Easy Weddings Instagram and send us a DM<\/a>. 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