How can we tactfully uninvite people from our wedding?

Hi there! Thanks so much for sending in your question :)

It's always tricky to downsize your wedding, no matter what the circumstances are. Be honest and tell your guests as soon as possible, most people are understanding and know wedding planning is a complicated process! Try to personalise each message and even meet face to face - taking the time to explain to them in person will help them process and gain a better understanding of your decision.

We've put together some polite wording options to help you out:

- Wedding planning is an absolute roller coaster ride! After much consideration, we have decided we would be more comfortable celebrating with a smaller guest list. We are heartbroken we won't be able to celebrate with you as we had originally planned. We thank you for your understanding and support.

- We wanted to reach out as soon as possible to let you know that we've made the difficult decision to downsize our wedding. We will be limiting our guestlist to family and close friends only in a private ceremony. Please accept our apologies for not being able to have you there on the day, we're grateful to have you in our lives and hope to celebrate with you at a later date.

- After much deliberation, we have decided to go ahead with a smaller wedding than initially planned. Unfortunately this means we can't accomodate for the 160 guests we initially invited! Instead we will be having a small group of guests present as we tie the knot in a private ceremony. We are so sorry we won't be able to celebrate together on the day, we would love to toast with you on a separate occasion. Thank you for your love and understanding.

Offering alternative celebrations, such as dinners in smaller groups or even sending out a virtual link for them to watch your ceremony on the day is a great way to make them still feel included.

Hope this helps!