Wedding vows for guys

Many guys struggle with this.

By verbalising what they'd like to convey to their bride, any celebrant should be able to formulate the guy's in a way that outlines their feelings - without being too "gushy". Most guys like to keep it relatively short too.

To break a bit of possible nervousness, some guys like to include something particular to them. 

eg I promise that I won't let my footy team games COMPLETELY overtake our television viewing.

     I will always try to understand your NEED for multiple pairs of shoes, even when they are not on sale.

There's no problem in asking for help, especially from professionals who have done many weddings. 

Good luck with penning your thoughts!

Sue 

Start simply by imagining your lives together many years into the future, then jot down the things that are most important. Draw from that to draft your vows - regardless of who you are.

For example, I promise I will stand by you when times are hard, and I will share your laughter when times are easy.

Don't say too much. It's all about the long term!

Most celebrants can help, so feel free to ask for examples or run your thoughts past your chosen officiant.

Hiya, 

I find when guys want to write vows they have all these emotions and thoughts in their mind and dont know where to start or begin. 

To me, your vows can read and became a list of promises to each other, and when you look at it like this they become a little less scary

Start with listing something about hoe you met or what first attracted you to your partner 

From there list some promises you will make for the future 

Comment on the kind of family, home life or travel you want to do together 

Finish by explaining how you see your future and your hope or dream of what that will be 

They dont need to be an essay. But from the heart 

A good celebrant will guide you on this too - I know I work with all my couples to make sure their vows correlate and sit nicely together. If one goes for humour and the other is a tear jerker Ill have a chat to make sure they are both happy with this etc 

Enjoy the process , reach out if you have any questions x

I find guys always struggle with vows.
Often providing one paragraph to a bride's full A4 page

A vow is solemn sure, but it is like a promise. A promise you wish to keep for the rest of your life.

I often ask guys  to write three sentences.
1. What attracted you to your partner in the first place.
2. what made you then want to see that person again 

3. what was it that made you want to be with that person forever 

The three answers can be woven into a wonderful vow or just left as is.

Hi Mate, 

First off, I applaud you for thinking about this in advance and putting some effort into writing your own vows. I'm certain your fiance will appreciate the time you're taking. 

Secondly, you are wanting to make sure that you're both on the same page in regards to how long both of your vows are going to be (word number not minutes) and the tone that you're both wanting them to have (they should complement each other). 

Once you've got the basics of length and tone sorted, the next part is to get your thoughts and feelings down on paper or in a notes app. Some simple prompts include: 

• When did you realise that you wanted to get married? 
• Can you share a short story (just a sentence or two) when you started to understand how special your fiance is? 
• What are their strengths and best qualities? 
• What do you want to promise them? 

Your goal is to make them feel amazing, loved and understood. And if you've done that, you've written excellent vows. 

If you need any extra help, my ebook: 'How To Write Wedding Vows That Don't Suck' that all my couples use to write their vows, is available here: https://payhip.com/b/W3yoe

Best of luck!

Camille Abbott

Marriage Celebrant

Personal Wedding Vows for Him

I’m a better man for meeting you and the luckiest man for marrying you.
I’ve never known anybody to be as kind, honest, thoughtful, and decent as you.
I’m thankful for every day that I get to spend with you because you carry these qualities with you always, and you’re a constant reminder of what I can only strive to be.

Examples of Promises for Him

I want to make this promise to you here and now.
This is my declaration, and to you my solemn vow.
I want to share my life with you, every triumph and success, for nothing you could say or do could make me love you any less.

From this day forward I promise you these things.
I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow.
I will share in your dreams, and support you as you strive to achieve your goals.
I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement.
I will help you when you need it, and step aside when you don't.
I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, in times of sickness and health.
You are my best friend and I will love and respect you always.

Hi there

Here is a link to some ideas for vows for you...as well as some other links that might help.

https://www.shutterfly.com/ideas/wedding-vows-for-him/#:~:text=I%20vow%20that%20you%20shall,the%20family%20we%20build%20together.

https://www.shutterfly.com/ideas/funny-wedding-vows/

There a loads of ideas on the internet, sometimes they are good just as a starting point.  This link gives you ideas of how to structure your vows.

https://www.shutterfly.com/ideas/wedding-vow-templates/

If your wedding day is a few months away start taking some notes on your phone when you think of something special about your partner, or if they say something funny or silly or do something funny or romantic etc.  That way when the time comes to write your vows you have lots of material to work with!

Most of all...try not to leave it to the last minute, ensure you ask your celebrant to read over your vows as well just as a second opinion.

All the very best for your wedding day!

Jen xx