Officate a wedding

Hi There, I have a general question. My best friend is getting married in 15 months and the couple asked if I could officiate. Now, I was honoured but looking at it in a practical sense, I have reservations. eg the course, costs and ongoing registration. Let alone the nerves about doing this right, without messing it up. Besides this isn't going to be a side career going forward. However, I'm keen to make it happen in some fashion or another. What is the bare minimum officiate input from a celebrant? Can myself and family to bulk of the vows and readings etc? Any advice would be helpful. Regards Angelo

Question Asked: 18/03/2025

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Moments with Helen

(10) · Yarrawonga, The Murray, Shepparton, Albury, Wodonga, Wagga Wagga - will travel

Posted: 20/03/2025

Exciting news! 
Yes you can have a friend or family member conduct your ceremony .

You will need to engage an authorised marriage celebrant to conduct the Legal requirements of your marriage.

I  offer a Co - Presenting package which includes everything you need to help your family or friend to take the stage and complete your personal and intimate ceremony. 

Hope this helps 

Helen 

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Kim O'Sullivan Celebrant

(15) · Wollongong, South Coast (as far as Nowra), Southern Highlands and Sydney

Posted: 16/04/2025

Hello Angelo

The registered celebrant must do all the legal paperwork and submit it to the Births Deaths and Marriages. Then the marriage is registered. During the ceremony, there are three mandatory sections that have to be done by the registered marriage celebrant: the monitum, the legal vows and the signing and witnessing of the marriage certificates.

I have done ceremonies where the "friend " does the introduction and other parts of the ceremony and then I have done the legal parts. It requires collaboration by the celebrant and "friend" to develop the ceremony with input from the couple.

A Life Celebrant - Lou Szymkow

(8) · South Coast NSW

Posted: 3/04/2025

Sure can!

It is an easy task and an Authorised Celebrant of choice can guide you and the couple through it all. The couple have to complete a Notice of Intended Marriage and hand that to an Authorised Celebrant 1-18 months before the wedding (so get that done now), and the Celebrant will explain what has to be done & said and what cannot be done or said.  The Celebrant has to meet with each party to the marriage for a private individual meeting to verify consent and sign a Decelartion of No Impediment to Marriage which is witnessed by the Celebrant. At the Ceremony, there is a little of a brief legal intro, following which, as long as the Celebrant can see and hear all, family and friends can pretty much take it from there. The couple have to say certain words (vows) to each other and the Celebrant just steps back in the signing of the Certificates. The Celebrant will of course, advise and assist all along the way to ensure everything is acceptable and will then register the marriage. 

Ceremonies by Ryn

(3) · Whitsundays / Mackay

Posted: 27/03/2025

Hi, it is an honour to be asked to officate at your best friends wedding. You would need to do a course which most are online and take approximately 3-6mths to complete and then another 3 months approximately to register with the Attorney General's office.

Your other option is to have a registered marriage celebrate attend the ceremony to do the actual legal stuff and then you could everything else.

Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 25/03/2025

Angelo
There are various points in the ceremony which a celebrant is required to undertake.
That is why we exist, to conform to the law.
And yes I agree, this is a very intense and expensive outlay for one only wedding.

There are also many areas where you could be involved too.
Your friends need to choose a celebrat that is amiable and will work with you to produce the ceremony.

Julia Carlino - Celebrant & MC

(20) · Sydney & Surrounding Areas

Posted: 21/03/2025

Hi Angelo, this is exciting news and always an honour to be asked by friends to marry them! 
The good news is you can perform majority of the ceremony, and engage with an authorised marriage celebrant to manage the official documentation and ensure they're marriage is registered with births, deaths and marriages, plus they will have to be present on the day to say the legal requirements, whilst yourself and family can do the welcoming, personal story, vows and readings and even announcing the couple husband and wife! Hope this helps, Julia 

Celebrant With Ink

(2) · Williamstown, Victoria (Bunurong Country)

Posted: 20/03/2025

Hello

The easiest way around this is to engage the services of a registered Commonwealth celebrant such as myself to do the legals only part of the ceremony, around 10 minutes.  The rest of the ceremony could be conducted by yourself and any number of friends or family members.  If you require any further assistance or have any other questions; please email or txt me.

celebrantwithink@gmail.com

0422773888

I am located in Williamstown.

Jack

AKA 

Celebrant With Ink

Lynda Ross

(9) · Townsville, Magnetic Island & Surrounding Areas

Posted: 20/03/2025

Yes you are able to conduct aspects of your friend's wedding in tandom and negotiation with an authorised celebrant who must make it clear to guests that they are the celebrant and recite the Monetum from the marriage act and witness the couple make legal vows to each other. Good luckwith working together with our friend's chosen authorised celebrant to have a magnificent and unique experience.

Rite Ceremony 4U

(10) · Ballarat, Bendigo and Surrounds

Posted: 20/03/2025

Hi Angelo,

The process is the same regardless of the ceremony complexity.

Family and friends are always encouraged to be involved as this helps personalise the wedding.

This can be achieved by doing readings, ring bearer, candle/sand ceremony inclusions, blessings.

The celebrant must meet the couple, receive the Notice of Intended Marriage, undertake the declarations before the wedding,

and deliver a ceremony with the mandatory inclusions - introduction, monitum, vows,ring exchange vows , signing registers, declaration, certificate presentation. The cost is really exactly the same.

Regards David

Toni Elsley - Breathe Easy Weddings

(153) · Sydney, Central Coast, Blue Mountains, Southern Highlands & Surrounding suburbs

Posted: 20/03/2025

Hi Angelo,

Great question! It's so lovely of your friends to ask you to officiate, what an honour!

There are only 3 legal requirements that we as Celebrants must do to legalise a marriage - we must speak the Monitum (the legal definition of marriage), we must witness the couple saying their legal marriage vows along with 2 witnesses, and we must sign all of the marriage certificates and register, again, with the witnesses and the marrying couple. 

Apart from these 3 requirements, any person is free to conduct the ceremony in any way that you or your friends choose.

Happy to chat more if you have any other questions. Good luck and have fun! It's truly the best "job" in the world... at least, I believe so.

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