Hi There, I have a general question. My best friend is getting married in 15 months and the couple asked if I could officiate. Now, I was honoured but looking at it in a practical sense, I have reservations. eg the course, costs and ongoing registration. Let alone the nerves about doing this right, without messing it up. Besides this isn't going to be a side career going forward. However, I'm keen to make it happen in some fashion or another. What is the bare minimum officiate input from a celebrant? Can myself and family to bulk of the vows and readings etc? Any advice would be helpful. Regards Angelo
Question Asked: 18/03/2025
Wedding Date: 9/08/2018
(10) · Yarrawonga, The Murray, Shepparton, Albury, Wodonga, Wagga Wagga - will travel
Posted: 20/03/2025
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Hi, it is an honour to be asked to officate at your best friends wedding. You would need to do a course which most are online and take approximately 3-6mths to complete and then another 3 months approximately to register with the Attorney General's office.
Your other option is to have a registered marriage celebrate attend the ceremony to do the actual legal stuff and then you could everything else.
(17) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD
Posted: 25/03/2025
Angelo
There are various points in the ceremony which a celebrant is required to undertake.
That is why we exist, to conform to the law.
And yes I agree, this is a very intense and expensive outlay for one only wedding.
There are also many areas where you could be involved too.
Your friends need to choose a celebrat that is amiable and will work with you to produce the ceremony.
Hi Angelo, this is exciting news and always an honour to be asked by friends to marry them!
The good news is you can perform majority of the ceremony, and engage with an authorised marriage celebrant to manage the official documentation and ensure they're marriage is registered with births, deaths and marriages, plus they will have to be present on the day to say the legal requirements, whilst yourself and family can do the welcoming, personal story, vows and readings and even announcing the couple husband and wife! Hope this helps, Julia
Hello
The easiest way around this is to engage the services of a registered Commonwealth celebrant such as myself to do the legals only part of the ceremony, around 10 minutes. The rest of the ceremony could be conducted by yourself and any number of friends or family members. If you require any further assistance or have any other questions; please email or txt me.
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Yes you are able to conduct aspects of your friend's wedding in tandom and negotiation with an authorised celebrant who must make it clear to guests that they are the celebrant and recite the Monetum from the marriage act and witness the couple make legal vows to each other. Good luckwith working together with our friend's chosen authorised celebrant to have a magnificent and unique experience.
Hi Angelo,
The process is the same regardless of the ceremony complexity.
Family and friends are always encouraged to be involved as this helps personalise the wedding.
This can be achieved by doing readings, ring bearer, candle/sand ceremony inclusions, blessings.
The celebrant must meet the couple, receive the Notice of Intended Marriage, undertake the declarations before the wedding,
and deliver a ceremony with the mandatory inclusions - introduction, monitum, vows,ring exchange vows , signing registers, declaration, certificate presentation. The cost is really exactly the same.
Regards David
(152) · Sydney, Central Coast, Blue Mountains, Southern Highlands & Surrounding suburbs
Posted: 20/03/2025
Hi Angelo,
Great question! It's so lovely of your friends to ask you to officiate, what an honour!
There are only 3 legal requirements that we as Celebrants must do to legalise a marriage - we must speak the Monitum (the legal definition of marriage), we must witness the couple saying their legal marriage vows along with 2 witnesses, and we must sign all of the marriage certificates and register, again, with the witnesses and the marrying couple.
Apart from these 3 requirements, any person is free to conduct the ceremony in any way that you or your friends choose.
Happy to chat more if you have any other questions. Good luck and have fun! It's truly the best "job" in the world... at least, I believe so.
Hi Angelo
Wow how cool is that to be asked to officiate the wedding . Yes it is a whole process, however you as their friend can conduct their full ceremony, readings etc with myself as the celebrant organising all the legal paperwork. I would conduct the legal monitum, legal vows and pronouncing of being officialy married.
The NOIM (Notice of Intended Marriage) must be signed in front of myself as the celebrant which must be completed up to 18 months prior to the wedding. The DONLI (Declaration of No Legal Impediment) must be completed signed and witnessed by myself as the celebrant in the week before the wedding. Two witnesses over the age of 18 must be present to sign the legal documents on the day, which also has to be signed by myself as the celebrant.
As the celebrant after the marriage I submit all the legal paperwork to Births, Deaths and Marriages. A commerative marriage certificate is also completed and signed on the day which is given to the couple.
I hope that answers your question and I look forward to being able to assist in your friend's wedding.
Warm regards
Kim Hemsley
Hi Angelo!
That is so sweet!
You're right though, the course is expensive and then there's other costs and the pressure, I get it. I actually did the same thing for my wedding, we wanted to have a Klingon wedding but apparently that's not legally recognized :P
Anyway some celebrants offer a "I want my friend to marry me but you make it legal pls" package, (mine is literally named that), where they just get you to do the declarations and the signatures like a ninja and you'll barely know they're there :) *or* you could do that bit and the paperwork before or after your ceremony! It's cheaper than if you'd hired them for a full blown ceremony so that helps!
You're gonna do great!
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Exciting news!
Yes you can have a friend or family member conduct your ceremony .
You will need to engage an authorised marriage celebrant to conduct the Legal requirements of your marriage.
I offer a Co - Presenting package which includes everything you need to help your family or friend to take the stage and complete your personal and intimate ceremony.
Hope this helps
Helen