Can I get married in both a religious and civil ceremony?

My fiance is muslim and I am catholic, we want to respect the mother and have a 'Katb al kitab' but this happens on a different day to the reception. On the day of the reception we want to have a civil ceremony, please help. Need some advice. Thank you

Question Asked: 2/01/2018

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Debra Hodge - Wedding Celebrant

(0) · Far North Coast NSW and Gold Coast Region

Posted: 14/02/2018

Yes, you can have two ceremonies, only one will be official though. 

So you will need to decide which date, and which ceremony will be the one you celebrate for years to come.

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Kaye Hartog

(2) · Adelaide and Surrounds

Posted: 7/02/2018

Couples can choose a religious ceremony or a civil ceremony, either way both will be legal but it can only be one or the other. Civil celebrants can and do offer religious elements in civil ceremonies. Such as blessing of the weddings rings and prayers. 

Maureen Miles Celebrant

(10) · Melbourne & Surroundings, Yarra Valley, Dandenongs, and Gippsland

Posted: 5/02/2018

Only one legal ceremony can take place. You could have both religious leaders make a blessing at a civil ceremony, the civil celebrant will say the legal required statements and get you to sign the legal paperwork as required. Or you can get have a religious ceremony and the day of the reception you can have a celebrant have a commitment ceremony which is not legally binding, however it gives you and your partner to say the words that have special meanings to each of you. 

Whatever you decide will be made from your heart I am sure.

Maureena Tilley Civil Celebrant

(16) · Bayside | Melbourne | Statewide

Posted: 5/02/2018

Hello.  No unfortunaltewy you can only be married once, however I have performed some beautiful ceremonies where a Priest and Celebrant work together to perform the ceremony.   Many Civill Celebrants are willing to include prayers and blessings in their ceremonies, and to respect and include cultural aspects of a couple who wish for a more spiritual ceremony. best wishes. Maureena

Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 5/02/2018

You may have two ceremonies however only one can be the real wedding. A civil ceremony help on the day of the reception would be considered the real wedding and the paperwork will be filed with Births Deaths Marriages in your local state. Your church ceremony will not require paperwork nor will the record be filed.

Lisa Keevill

(4) · Newcastle, Hunter Valley, Southern Highlands & Surrounding Areas

Posted: 31/01/2018

Legally you can only ever have one ceremony - however I can combine the two in a way that suits you and the law.

Tim Kelly - Marriage Celebrant + MC

(54) · Cairns, Port Douglas, Mission Beach and the Tablelands but I am prepared to travel nationally

Posted: 11/01/2018

You can have two ceremonies, but only one will be allowed to be the legal one. You could have the 'Katb al kitab' as the legal ceremony out of respect for your partner's religion and have the second as a commitment ceremony. Multi-faith relationships can be challenging in this regard, so it is essential that you find a balance that you, and your future mother-in-law, are all happy with. You mention that on the day of the reception you will have a civil ceremony but there is no mention of a Catholic ceremony. A Muslim wedding is obviously recognised as a legal union so my suggestion would be to have the religious ceremony as the legal one and have a commitment ceremony on the day of the reception. This is obvioulsy causing you more than a little concern and I hope that my advice helps.

Sue Horne Ceremonies

(0) · Brisbane and surrounds | Gold Coast and surrounds

Posted: 10/01/2018

You could have a relious ceremony, which is legally registered and a commitment ceremony by a civil celebrant.  You cannot have two legal ceremonies in this situation.

John De Chiera

(1) · Perth + Margaret River - WA

Posted: 9/01/2018

Only one ceremony is legally recognised.If you want a civil ceremony you can however include a religious content withon the ceremony by have special religious readings,music,exchanging items of religious significance etc.

Jen Lawrie-Smith Marriage Celebrant

(29) · Melbourne

Posted: 8/01/2018

Hi, you can only have one official marriage ceremony, so choose which you would like to be the legal ceremony - the civil one or the religious one... but which religious one is the question you need to resolve. Many people have a civil ceremony then a blessing by the religious celebrant of their choice. Or there's an alternative...

I trained in celebrancy at Monash Uni so I speciailise in ceremonies just like this - integrating elements of both cultural backgrounds into a civil ceremony. This way both families can feel comfortable with aspects which have been integrated into a very personal ceremony.

Feel free to contact me (or any Monash-trained celebrant) if you'd like more information.

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