Sheralee Everson - Celebrant

Sheralee Everson - Celebrant

Please see the following Easy Weddings article - 

How to break up with a bridesmaid | Easy Weddings

I hope this helps! 

Sheralee Everson - Celebrant

The goal is to keep the conversation generally positive. Don’t make the conversation about the reasons you don’t want him to walk you down the aisle, but rather the ways you do honor him. You can also explain how you’re not following a number of wedding traditions, but customising the wedding to suit your personal wishes.

Context matters, too: Don’t spring the topic on dear old dad while in line at McDonalds and most definitely don’t do it in a text.

This is a conversation you’ll want to have in private ? face-to-face ? and somewhere you both feel equally comfortable.

Set aside a specific time and make sure your dad knows you have something important to discuss.

Nothing’s worse than being invited to lunch and then feeling ambushed by someone close to you.

Set expectations so you can both come to the table prepared to talk things out.

Once you’ve conveyed your wishes in an honest, considerate way, you may want to ask your dad if he’d like to be involved in the wedding in another capacity.

Some ideas are, having him walk down the aisle as part of the wedding party with a spouse... giving a reading at the ceremony, participating in the unity candle ceremony, sitting in the front row, or sharing in a special dance at the reception. 

Of course, it’s perfectly fine not to involve him in a prominent way. If that’s your preference, you can sleep easy knowing you’ve expressed your wishes as honorably and directly as possible.

While your message may cause hurt feelings, just remember that your delivery can still be kind. Directness can be difficult but it leaves no room for doubt ? your message is heard loud and clear.